Tag Archives: happiness

When you smile at the universe, the universe smiles back

I used to think of the universe as a rational, uncaring machine. If this, then that. And given that our world, never mind our universe, is so large, I couldn’t see how we could make much of a practical difference. … Continue reading

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25 books that changed me

When you think about it, a book is a truly magical thing. For the cost of a lunch, you can have an experience that can change your life. And that experience can be made even more profound when the book … Continue reading

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Taming the hamsters in my head

“Are you okay, darling?” My wife heard me cursing to myself in the shower and she was concerned. It was a normal day and a normal shower. But I was so busy thinking about things that made me angry that … Continue reading

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Unlocking potential in your organization

What do you expect from other people? From yourself? It’s performance review season at many organizations, the time when we hand out labels related to each individual’s performance as well as their potential, reserving the best labels for a small … Continue reading

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Changing the habit of hurrying

Do you ever feel you don’t have time to do the things you really want to do? Or you’re so busy doing that there’s no time for enjoying? Do you ever say, wistfully, “Where did the time go?” I used to … Continue reading

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The prisons I build myself

“Daddy, dance with me!” We were at an outdoor blues concert on a beautiful summer evening. My 5 year old daughter, Hanako, was dancing to the music when she asked me to dance with her. “No, darling,” I said. “Dance … Continue reading

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Solving the recognition paradox

Every year, we send out employee surveys and, every year, we discover employees aren’t as engaged as we’d like. And yet every year we neglect to do one of the cheapest, easiest, and most effective things we can do to … Continue reading

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Stepping off the hedonic treadmill

Something was wrong. It was a crisp, clear September night. I was walking along the Hudson River, heading home through the park after a nice evening  with friends. And I was unhappy. Instead of focusing on a beautiful walk home … Continue reading

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“Do you think today is just another day in your life?”

How do you start each day? When I wake up, I almost instinctively reach for my phone. I go through email and my calendar, check social media, and I think about things I need to do or should have done. … Continue reading

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