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The prospect of premature death didn’t make me change so I tried this instead

“Take this pill, every day, for the rest of your life,” my doctor said. I sighed at this obvious sign of decline, envisioning the 7-day pillbox that all old people seem to have. “Already?” I asked. Approaching 40 years old, … Continue reading

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Accelerated intimacy at work (without a call from HR)

Even during some of the worst times in my life, I’ve responded to How are you? with Everything’s great!  I thought by showing people that I didn’t need help, that I was always happy, I could somehow make them like me … Continue reading

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The best gift my mother ever gave me

Growing up, my mother’s lack of education and limited worldview were infuriating and embarrassing. Though she raised me, she seemed so different from me. That led to a sense of detachment and indifference. There were times, when she had moved … Continue reading

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A letter from my future self

  If you’ve ever wondered where you’re heading, or what your work and life is leading up to (if anything), then I have an exercise that might help you. This week, I suggested this exercise when several people I’m coaching … Continue reading

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Why I’m thrilled to be 50 years old

Here I am as a baby. When this picture was taken, my whole life was ahead of me. At some point, though, most of us stop looking forward and start looking back. We stop thinking that the best is yet … Continue reading

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How to love your job (even if you hate it)

When I asked her “What’s the best part of your job?” she looked at me wistfully and said “Nothing, really.” She was smart, young, and creative, but somehow her spark had gone out. She told me she didn’t want it … Continue reading

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Discovering your purpose

Ask a roomful of people whether they think networking is important and everyone will knowingly nod. Now, ask them for the purpose of their network. Crickets. Most will be thinking “Networks have a purpose?” or, worse, “I don’t know, I’m … Continue reading

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A glimpse of rapture, a glimpse of peace

I was walking by myself on a pristine beach in Mexico. It was early morning and the sun hadn’t quite made it’s appearance yet. Looking out to where the expansive gray-blue sky met the grayer, bluer ocean, I could feel … Continue reading

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Deepening relationships through contribution

A friend of mine is thinking of relocating to another city and was talking with me about finding a job there. “Do you think my boss would let me do my job from the new location? Or maybe there’s an … Continue reading

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A New Year’s resolution: Take control of your career

Reflect for a moment on your past few years at work. Have they been fulfilling?  Have the uncertainties decreased or increased?  Are you more or less optimistic about realizing your potential? If you don’t like your answers, one of the … Continue reading

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