Monthly Archives: May 2014

Accelerated intimacy at work (without a call from HR)

Even during some of the worst times in my life, I’ve responded to How are you? with Everything’s great!  I thought by showing people that I didn’t need help, that I was always happy, I could somehow make them like me … Continue reading

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The best peer support group for your career?

I’ve got a problem and I’m hoping you can help me. I know that working out loud – working in an open, generous, connected way – increases your chances of finding meaning and fulfillment in your work and life. I … Continue reading

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How to not suck at receiving feedback

I usually suck at receiving feedback. Even a constructive suggestion from my wife about loading the dishwasher feels like a personal attack, as if my very self-worth is tied to whether the dishes should face in or out. Yet in writing Working Out … Continue reading

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The best gift my mother ever gave me

Growing up, my mother’s lack of education and limited worldview were infuriating and embarrassing. Though she raised me, she seemed so different from me. That led to a sense of detachment and indifference. There were times, when she had moved … Continue reading

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A letter from my future self

  If you’ve ever wondered where you’re heading, or what your work and life is leading up to (if anything), then I have an exercise that might help you. This week, I suggested this exercise when several people I’m coaching … Continue reading

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